An Oh Wondrous Grace Chronicle Writer Portrait
Timberley and her husband, André, do life together as a husband-and-wife team, raising a family, serving as bi-vocational pastors and helping others find the balance in life through their blog, Living Our Priorities. Like many people, they found themselves frustrated trying to balance their faith, family and work. Then they discovered God’s priorities. Once they purposed to live by them, this changed not only their marriage but their lives! Now they find great joy inspiring others to live within the priorities of God.
Timberley Gray Interview
Oh Wondrous Grace: Thank you so much for talking with us today. We'd love to learn more about you and your relationship with Christ.
Timberley Gray: I was very young when I accepted Jesus Christ, but it wasn’t until I was in my late 20s when I began a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Some people refer to their partying days with phrases such as before they were saved, or before Christ they used to do xyz. Well, I say I did all those things before I had PR - before I had a personal relationship with Christ. Let’s been honest, many of us have done crazy things after we’re saved, but it isn’t until we come into a personal relationship with Christ, that we realize we want to live a life that honors and pleases him.
OWG: What is your favorite part of the day?
TG: My favorite part of my day is spending my mornings in my War Room - having coffee time with Jesus. My War Room is not a place where I go to give God my demands, but a place I meet him to surrender my heart, lay down my burdens, hear from him and receive his grace, wisdom and strength. Like many, the movie inspired my War Room. From the beginning, I came up with every excuse in the book for why I couldn’t create one until one day Matthew 6 jumped out at me and changed everything.
Matthew 6:5-6 (NASB) “When you pray, you are not to be like the hypocrites; for they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and on the street corners so that they may be seen by men. Truly I say to you, they have their reward in full. But you, when you pray, go into your inner room, close your door and pray to your Father who is in secret, and your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you.
Did you catch that? Close your door and pray to your Father! Hello - it was time to remove the excuses and create my meeting place with God. (Read more about Timberley's War Room here: https://livingourpriorities.com/need-war-room/ )
OWG: What do you like the most about your ministry?
TG: What I enjoy the most about our Living Our Priorities community is our community engagement. Receiving emails for prayer requests or questions about God’s word allows us to connect with our readers on another level - a deeper level of spiritual intimacy. It allows us to stand in the gap and share in this journey of life together. By having an online presence, it allows us to connect 24/7 not limited by borders but connected in the spirit through Jesus Christ.
OWG: Was there a specific person who made an impact on your Christian life? How did he or she help you in your walk with Christ?
TG: When our daughter was 6 months old (now 18) I attended a women’s fellowship and little did I know that weekly fellowship would be the catalyst to where I am today. My small group leader gravitated towards me as a young mother. I don’t know why, but obliviously God placed her in my life for a purpose. Her name was Lorri, and her husband Ed was the men’s ministry leader. When my husband attended the men’s fellowship Ed was his small group leader.
We were having trouble in our marriage, so we asked them to counsel us. We had a double date, instead of dinner and a movie, we had dinner and counseling. That counseling session was the beginning of a pivotal relationship in our life, in which they became our mentors and spiritual parents. In fact, they are the ones who taught us what it meant to live within the priorities of God.
For the first time in our life, we experienced what it meant to be discipled. Ed and Lorri walked with us in our everyday life - helping us in our roles as husband and wife and parents. Most importantly, they saw our spiritual gifts when we didn’t see them in ourselves, and encouraged us to step out boldly in our faith, allowing God to use us to lead others to Christ.
Both Ed and Lorri have gone home to be with the Lord, and we are forever grateful for the seed they’ve sown into us. After they went home to be with the Lord, we realized that God gave us a desire to duplicate what they did for us.
Learning the priorities of God not only saved our marriage, but it also saved our life, and now we find great joy in inspiriting others to live life to the point where God’s priorities become their priorities, and that is how Living Our Priorities was birthed.
OWG: What a beautiful and inspiring story. We'd love to learn more about your hobbies and family time.
TG: We are a productive family as I never like to use the word busy, so making time to connect with God, my spouse, our family and for myself is a priority. My mornings are non-negotiable, it’s my time to quiet my mind and connect with God and take care of my temple. After I pray and spend time in the word, I like to Fascia Blast, and exercise. Since I was diagnosed with an autoimmune condition, taking care of my temple is just as important as my time with God. As it is what allows me to fulfill the purpose God has for me regardless of what I’m physically walking through.
My husband and I enjoy bike rides together or we take family walks in the evenings with our college-aged children. Our family is also BIG on family games, yes we are a competitive family but it’s all done in love.
OWG: How do you quiet your mind?
TG: Since gift-giving is my love language, I find windows of time to isolate in my craft room listening to worship while working on home decor or creating gifts for others. I find it extremely therapeutic to focus on others, especially during times of difficulties. God has shown me that when I focus on him and seek to be a blessing to others around me, God always makes sure to take care of my needs. We are blessed to be a blessing!
OWG: What are some projects that are in the works for you with your ministry?
TG: Recently, we launched our 30-Day Love Challenge. This challenge is personal to us because it changed the atmosphere for our family. One day we noticed how short and impatient we were towards each other. So we meditated on 1 Corinthians 13 for 30 days as a family.
During those 30 days, we saw a huge transformation in how we responded to each other. We were kind, extending grace without hesitation and slow to get angry. For several years we prayed about how to create this course so that other families could experience the same transformation. Well, earlier this year, we were able to release this free course so that others can renew their mind and transform their heart in 30 days!
Many love hours went into creating this course, and only God would have known the impact of the timing. Who knew it would be released during a pandemic when grace and love are so important!
If you would like to learn more about the love challenge, please click here: https://livingourpriorities.com/the-love-challenge-ecourse/